FOR hours daily, she was transfixed by the computer screen, watching steamy love scenes play out in front of her
The 32-year-old Singaporean engineer was aware that she was hooked on pornography and tried to stop.
But she was unsuccessful and became compulsive towards porn when her marriage hit the rocks.
She is one of a handful of women suffering from porn addiction, whom senior consultant psychiatrist Associate Professor Munidasa Winslow has seen in the last three years.
On why women turn to porn, Prof Winslow said: “Porn is easier – you don’t need to pay attention to being nice to each other. And you can do it anytime, anywhere.
“Also, it gives them a thrill and acts as a stress reliever.”
Prof Winslow, who is now in private practice, previously headed the Addiction Medicine Department at the Institute of Mental Health (IMH).
He was also director of the Community Addictions Management Programme at IMH, providing professional case management in the treatment of addictions.
While not many women here are coming clean about their porn addiction, it is a different story elsewhere.
Last week, The Guardian newspaper reported that more women in the UK are admitting that they are hooked on Internet pornography.
When she went through a rough patch in her relationship with her husband, porn became an easy escape.
The report quoted Mr Jason Dean, the founder of the main porn counselling service in the UK, Quit Porn Addiction, as saying that about one in three clients are women struggling with watching porn. In the case of the Singaporean woman, her interest in porn “started even before the Internet”, she told The New Paper in an e-mail interview.
Her friend in Australia had sent her a porn magazine seven or eight years ago. By the time she was done flipping through it, her interest was piqued.
Soon, she began desiring more porn and went onto the Internet for more of such fixes. And as Internet usage became more prevalent, it became much easier and faster for her to get porn online, she added.
When she later went through a rough patch in her relationship with her husband, porn became an easy escape.
A POLYTECHNIC student who had sex with a minor four years ago was placed on 15 months’ supervised probation on Monday.
Jesper Lim Jun Hao, 20, was the 12th man to be brought to court for having sex with the girl, then 12, at her apartment in mid-2007.
A Community Court was told that the two came to know each other through a social networking internet website in June 2006. They did not interact with each other much then.
A year later, they got re-acquainted with each other online and started chatting.
After about a week of chatting, they met at an MRT station. Then they went to the victim’s flat where they had sex. He was then 16.
The offence came to light after the girl was warded in hospital in July 2008 and found to be pregnant. She subsequently terminated her pregnancy and also informed police that she had engaged in sex with several male persons.
He committed offence four times; girl was 14 when first raped and gave birth last year
A YOUTH who raped his step-sister on four occasions was jailed for 10 years and ordered to be given 12 strokes of the cane yesterday.
The girl, aged 14 at the time of the first rape, had not told her family as she felt ashamed of what had happened. She gave birth to a girl early last year and the child has since been fostered out.
The accused, now 18, pleaded guilty to two counts of rape in February and March in 2009 and the other two charges were considered during sentencing. He cannot be named to protect the girl’s identity.
The pair had been living in the same household since 1997 when the victim’s father married the accused’s mother. They have a younger half-brother.
Arguing for an appropriate jail term and caning, Deputy Public Prosecutor Gail Wong said the girl was just 14 when she was first sexually assaulted by her step-brother, then 16.
She said the accused had failed to protect his step-sister and betrayed the trust. He repeatedly committed the rapes over a few months with some degree of force used, she added.
The court heard that the accused returned to his Bedok North flat from a juvenile home that weekend in February 2009. A Juvenile Court had sentenced him to stay in a juvenile home for two years from November 2007 for rioting.
He began harassing the victim by hitting her on the arms. She hit him back playfully as they had used to do when they were younger. The accused suddenly felt an urge to have sex.
He caught hold of her and despite her resisting, dragged her into her bedroom and locked the door.
She shouted to her half-brother to take the spare keys and open the door but the accused told the then-nine-year-old boy not to disturb. He then raped her. He repeated the offence when he was on home leave again the following month.
In his oral grounds of decision, Community Court Judge Ng Peng Hong said the accused – assessed to be simplistic in his thinking – was a recalcitrant.
He agreed with the DPP that the accused was undeterred by the Juvenile Court’s rehabilitative sentence, and that a deterrent punishment was needed. The offences were not isolated incidents but a “persistent course of reprehensible conduct”, he added.
The judge did not give much weight to the victim’s undated letter of forgiveness and appeal for leniency as she was young and might not appreciate the seriousness of the matter. “I also caution myself that the victim might have written the letter out of fear and pressure from the family,” he added.
The 16-year-old girl is not currently schooling.
The accused’s lawyer Josephus Tan had asked for a second chance for his client through a stint in reformative training. He said the entire judicial process had taught the accused a very bitter and traumatic lesson in that he now had to shoulder the disappointments of his family and the shame of his actions.
The accused could have been jailed for up to 20 years, fined or caned on each charge.
STOMPer Karen was appalled to find sex games displayed right next to games for children on SingTel’s e-ideas website.
Said the STOMPer:
“My sister went to SingTel’s e-ideas website to download games for her Samsung Galaxy and was shocked to discover that there was a ‘Naughty’ games category, right next to the Kids and Disney categories.
“There are nine pages of naughty games with sexual and lesbian connotations.
“On a respectable site, this is terribly shocking. We would like to know if this is acceptable.
“I hope something is done about this urgently as we do not even know how many children have downloaded such games.
“You do not even need to log in to access this!”
The show is to introduce a girl whose habit does match her beautiful outward appearance. Known as “Cutey Yellowish,” she stopped brushing her teeth a decade ago. The last time she remembers doing so was when her mother brushed teeth for her.
“I do not understand why people should brush teeth, as it is not like others will look into your mouth,” said Ji Hyun-ji, 20. “As food scrapples piles on, they will actually protect my teeth.” She only wipes her front teeth with tissue on “special” occasions.
The show, which is to air April 5 at midnight, is planning to reveal dentists’ diagnosis, which they claim is the most shocking of their careers. Though Ji has forgotten how to brush her teeth, the program will also try to persuade Ji to do so again, according to producer Lee Geun-chan.