Woman, now 22, isn’t the only one. Counsellors say more teens under age 16 are having sex.
SHE is a bright student from an average Singapore family.
She was never abused, even if she felt a little neglected at times. Yet, as a young teen, she was rebellious and defiant.
And she experimented with sex from a young age. She lost her virginity at the tender age of 13.
Lisa (not her real name) is now a 22-year-old university student and she said it was all because of curiosity.
She was a little troubled about what she had done, but for all of two weeks.
It was soon just another incident in her life.
Lisa is one of an apparently growing number of young girls who have no qualms about experimenting with sex at a young age, and do not seem to regret their actions.
More than 40 per cent of nearly 1,500 people who took part in a recent Internet poll said they had sex for the first time before they were 18.
The Today newspaper quoted police figures as showing that there were 198 cases of sexual penetration of girls under the age of 16 last year, 10 more than in 2009. It is against the law for anyone to have sex with those under the age of 16.
If a girl under the age of 14 is involved, the crime is treated as statutory rape.
The poll, conducted by the online forum Flowerpod, was not gender specific, but several of those who took part said they first had sex when they were as young as 13.
Dr Carol Balhetchet, the director of youth services at the Singapore Children’s Society, also said she knew of a girl who had sex when she was just 13 years old.
So it would appear that Lisa’s case is not so unusual.
Lisa told TheNewPaper that she grew up feeling the incident had made her who she is today – stronger and less naive.
It happened one night when she decided to go to her then-boyfriend’s house.
“One thing just led to another,” she said. Afterwards, she didn’t think of sex as a big deal any more. “It didn’t seem as magical as most people described their ‘first time’ to be,” she said.
She temporarily regretted that her first time wasn’t with someone she had genuine feelings for. “I didn’t love him at all,” she said. She remains convinced that sex is important in a long-term relationship. “It bonds two people together in a unique way,” she said.
Lisa said her parents still don’t know about the incident. “My parents were always working, so they didn’t know what was going on,” she said…